So What Else Is New?

[la_samtyr]

Yes, my aunt and uncle are officially in the middle of a health care crisis. Long story short -- their health has been slowly failing for a *long* time, and now it has started to snowball. Snowball as in the last year probably but the last two or so months for sure. Gah. This is exactly what I have been afraid of for the past four years. The bad thing is that they refused to "do anything" while they were still in "moderately good" health -- such as move into assisted living. Now I am very much afraid that they will be tremendously unhappy and be miserable at the very least. Best case scenario is that they will be able to adjust ok. I will probably write more when I get back home -- right now I ma off to yap at the cousins and they can fuss at me for being so ignorant of the situation. *Sigh* Y'know, when this first started four years ago, I was really concerned but after awhile I kept getting blown off and it was being implied by my aunt and uncle that I was way too fussy. Ok, so I backed off. If they won't admit anything and deny everything I say/think... just yeah. *SIGH*

So, back later on. I hope I can keep a few shreds of sanity for a little while longer.

Comments

[bluemoon73.livejournal.com]

I'm sorry about your uncle and aunt. I hope the situation gets better. And it's really unfair of your family to make you feel guilty now or to accuse you of being ignorant about the situation, when you tried so hard to help them at the beginning. It gets to a point when, if pople refuse your help, you can't really do anyhting but back off as it's just a waste of energy and time for you.
I hope everything gets better.
Take care.
bluemoon

[samtyr.livejournal.com]

Well, I suppose I am overly sensitive because I spent years caregiving (I hit burnout *ages* ago) and it is hard to have a clear view of things when you are so close to it. Then again, I learned to rely on my feelings - never mind how unscientific that is - and that tells me that I'm reading the situation accurately. The most frustrating bit of all that is I'm the youngest of the bunch and the older ones that my aunt and uncle would *probably* have listened to have passed on. It's just... oh, I dunno. The curse of a long-lived family I guess. My apologies for rambling so -- I hope that you can discern a response in there somewhere.